I lost a love once and I thought it was going to be the end of the world for me.
  Now that I have recovered from my loss, I would like to think that Alfred Lord Tennyson was right when he said "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
"  I am telling you this story as there might be something here that could be learned if you too have lost a love.
I personally believe that all relationships have a standard duration.
  In Junior High, it's give and take four days.
  As we become more mature, the lifespan becomes longer.
  However, some relationships stay okay for sometime then goes off course.
  Majority of us will only have one soul mate in our lifetime.
  The other relationships will die a natural death.
  So when I first lost love, I am aware that this is part of a standard course of life.
My girlfriend and I were considering taking our relationship to the next level.
  The contract lease for her apartment was going to expire soon and she raised the idea of moving into my apartment.
  Since were there together most of the time anyhow, she thought it would be a practical move and she will be saving the rent money.
For me, however, having separate places was important.
  That was how I thought maybe because I was not ready for the relationship to be taken to the next level.
  I would say that I lost love and perhaps the life span of the relationship has come to its end.
That was her first disappointment and I believe the situation did not go so well.
  Then I attended a bachelor's party where things got a little wild.
  My girlfriend learned about it and she broke off with me.
  At first glance, you could say that I lost love because of one night of wild party.
However, when you look deeper, the bachelor's party was the tool I used to loose my love because if I was not really committed to her, as evidenced by not encouraging her to move in with me.
  I lost love because I was not prepared to go to that direction with my girlfriend just yet.
The relationship with my ex was good overall.
  But I can feel in my heart that she is not yet the love of my life.
  I loved her and I love her till now.
  I fondly remember the times we spent together, but I do not see myself spending the rest my life with her.
For a time I grieved over my lost love and even tried to find out where it went wrong.
  I genuinely felt hurt when she broke off with me.
  I know I caused her some pain as well but  what I did not understand then was, was it enough for her to leave me completely.
Now I realized that what I wanted was for things to be on status quo.
  However, relationships should progress or perish.
  So because I did not allow it to grow, it had to die.
  So that my friends was how I lost love.