The breakup period is difficult, very difficult.
Your mind is probably all over the place and you are feeling lost and you really want some answers on how to feel better and get over your loss.
Of course for most of us the most obvious way to feel better is to go back to a time when we were happy.
I imagine, you want to go back to a time when you were together with your ex girlfriend.
By following the four strategies below you will start getting rid of some of those negative feelings you are carrying right now and become a more attractive man.
The type of man you were at the beginning of your relationship.
The type of man that your ex will fall in love with again! Interested? Let's get started then! As a man, these emotionally charged situations can be very difficult for us to deal with.
We don't really feel like we can talk with our friends about it and we think if we do keep talking about getting back with our ex then we know they will get pissed off.
I just wanted to quickly let you know that I have been where you have been and I'm in your corner.
The first way to get back with your ex girlfriend is to simply cut off communication with her.
During the first month of the breakup period you should not initiate communication with her at all.
This includes Facebook, whatsapp, texting, calls etc.
This month of no contact (nc) will give you a chance to work on yourself, heal your wounds and become the man that your ex really want wants! It also gives her a chance to miss you.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder as they say! Calling her and begging her to come back is a huge turn off.
Neediness kills attraction and it will destroy your chances of getting her back! The first way I talked about will get her missing you and give you a chance to heal but it alone is usually not enough to get her back and keep her.
The second way to get your ex girlfriend back is to try work out what went wrong...
where?...
and why? If you can understand this then you know that once you get her back you can avoid making the same mistakes again.
It takes two people to make a relationship and it takes two people to break it.
Did you start taking her for granted? Did you act needy, insecure or jealous? These reasons account for 90% of relationship breakups and I bet you are smart enough to work out which thing you did wrong.
I'm not here to cast judgement.
I just want you to think about where things went wrong and fix it! Great! So now your girlfriend should be missing you and you know not to make the same mistakes again.
The third way to win her back is for you to become a more desirable man.
People always want great things in their life.
You need to become a greater man to get and keep more attractive women.
Let me paint you a picture.
Imagine two guys...
they both look identical and have the same job BUT one of them trains ju-jitsu, is learning a second language, has a great social circle and has a positive outlook on life.
The other guy just works, comes home and watches TV.
He has nothing going on in his life.
Which guy do you think a woman would want in her life? She wants the first guy! He's interesting and he's got a lot going on in his life.
It's very very attractive for a woman.
I'm not telling you to go out and do ju-jitsu, it's just my main sport.
I'm telling you to go out and lead a more interesting life.
Take up a hobby, get new friends, develop your social circle, get in shape (take care of your health, it's very important!).
So now you should be an attractive man, whose girlfriend misses him and you are aware of what mistakes not to make again.
The final way to get your ex back is just to get in contact with her again.
You should have gone for one month with no contact.
So when you call her to meet up make sure you have a friend mindset only.
You should not be calling her with a 'lets jump back into a relationship' mindset.
You should be more like "It would be nice to meet up for a coffee and catch up".
Then when you meet her again she should be able to notice how much more interesting and attractive you have become.
Remember she wants to be with the interesting attractive guy who has a lot of things going on in his life.
You need to be that guy!