Are you having much luck breaking through your ex's tough exterior? Do you find that everything you say or do is met with skepticism or indifference? Do you feel as though the harder you try, the worse the situation is getting? Are you wondering what happened to the sweet person you fell in love with?   Well, first of all, let's talk about why your ex is acting this way, and then we'll discuss how easy it is to get through those defenses.
  Your ex likely didn't come to this decision easily.
Obviously, they had strong feelings for you and, in fact, they're still probably in love with you.
However, there was a greater need to end the relationship.
As a result, your ex has put up a wall to prevent any outside influence (namely, you) from influencing or reversing their decision.
  Okay, so you're trying everything in your arsenal to get them to see sense, but nothing is working.
The biggest mistake you're making right now is that you're attacking the situation head-on.
Your ex knows what you're trying to do and they have their defenses up.
Also, you are using the wrong tactics (begging, pleading, and handling them with kid gloves).
No one responds favorably to behavior like this.
  Instead, what you need to do is beat them at their own game.
Break off contact, start acting indifferent, and never let them see that you are upset over the breakup.
By doing this, you are directly siphoning power away from them.
This is the power they have over you and they're not going to like it.
However, sometimes tough love is the best tactic.
  Once they've lost their edge, you can bet that they're going to be much more open to sitting down and discussing things.
In fact, don't be surprised if they suggest getting back together.
  By taking a less direct approach, you've used the power of psychology in your favor.
You've obtained your objective and your ex probably doesn't realize that was your plan all along.