When love comes your way and you develop a relationship a delightful and delicate situation comes about.
A relationship consisting of two individuals in love is not something that you can fold up and stick in your wallet for a day or two.
In the beginning it is alive and vibrant and if you wish to keep it that way you must take care of it.
Failure to treat a relationship as an important part of your life allows it to wither away and die.
However as it slides down to oblivion usually you are presented with an opportunity or two to salvage the situation.
If you keep a goldfish as a pet you provide it with some care.
Probably at least once daily you sprinkle some food into the fish bowl.
Frequently people who keep fish as pets place a piece of greenery or a plastic castle in the bottom to create a "home" for the fish.
And in order to keep it alive you change the water regularly so your finny friend always has as fresh supply of oxygen.
These all sustain your pet with nourishment, food and drink.
Well, it is a goldfish so maybe drink does not quite belong here but I am sure you are getting the picture.
If you will do this for a yellow fish swimming around in a gallon or water contained in a clear glass bowl WHY will you not work to sustain your relationship? Do you want to keep this romance together or let if fall apart? If your gut (heart) tells you that this is the one to spend the rest of your life with then obviously you want to save it.
So feed the darn thing, keep it alive with the nourishment of love.
How? Well, how about making this a priority in your life.
Don't take the whole thing for granted.
Continually make yourself available to your lover.
If this is going to be a long lasting thing then it damned sure better be an important part of your life.
Learn that romance is much more than jumping on the bed for an hour.
You will be much better off spending a quiet evening with your lady friend then spending the night in a bar with beer and buddies.
Not only will your love life improve but your hangovers will certainly be fewer.
For you this will be a win-win situation.
So (remember the fresh goldfish water) if romance is the food for a relationship what is the water? Water is the "change" in the love life that brings new oxygen in allowing the love to breathe.
Become too comfortable in the relationship and the love glow will quickly fade.
Jealousy, possessiveness and absenteeism are all personality traits that surface with time and will definitely destroy a new love life.
However, remember that you will not be able to change any past actions at all.
If you are starting to have troubles then you need to define what actions are negative and stop them.
Just remember that you cannot change the past.
There is absolutely no power that will allow you to go back a week or two and do something differently.
So if the decision is to keep this relationship together then get busy.
Go back to being the person that your lover became attracted to and re-ignite that love spark.
Recognize troubles before they become problems.
Correct whatever is the cause and get back to loving.
You easily can put this love life back together and build a stronger and happier relationship.