Is this a familiar question to you? It's pretty common for people who are still in love to break up, and while there's no easy answers as to why it happens, there are reasons.
They Feel Taken For Granted Everyone wants to feel appreciated, right? If someone feels they are not being appreciated they'll do anything to address this.
While subtlety or discussion are the sensible options, love doesn't always work like that.
It's often easier to think "this'll get their attention" instead.
Someone breaking up in these circumstances will be hoping that their partner misses them so much that they'll have a realization and 'come to their senses'.
They want nothing more than to be appreciated.
It's a risky strategy, where they'll often hope that love will get them through it.
They Feel a Commitment Gap It's totally possible to love someone, but not be at the same place, in terms of commitment.
Whether the person breaking up the relationship wants more or less commitment focus, the outcome is the same.
There are often deep seated reasons why couples have commitment incompatibilities, some might even be deeply rooted in family history or previous relationships.
People tend to assume that the person breaking up is trying to hold the relationship 'to ransom' but it may be far more complex.
These are issues that'll need to be discussed and the break up is designed to draw attention to this.
They Feel like Communication's Broken Down There may be a wide number of reasons why this happens.
Career demands are probably the most common, whether that's due to an increase in travelling, long hours or stress.
These things can harm communication in the most stable relationships.
Sometimes the grand gesture of a painful break-up is easier than trying to repair the communication normally, even though both people still love each other.
Chances are, they are hoping that a break up, however painful, will force a situation where a dialogue is opened.
They Feel Penned In Even people who are in love can become obsessed with the idea that the grass could be greener elsewhere, particularly if the relationship is longstanding.
A break up under these circumstances could be a cry for change, rather than a loss of love.
If the relationship has been in place for a long time, there's a good chance that there's a strong sense of routine.
If people become obsessed with this routine they might start acting irrationally.
It's certainly not rational to break up a healthy, loving relationship, hoping that there's something better out there- especially as it's so tough to find love in the first place.
But people aren't often rational when they obsess over things or feel constrained by their lives.