Nobody wants a relationship to take a turn for the worse.
Unfortunately, most of us experience this at one time or another.
While some of these relationships cannot be saved, and salvaging them should not even be attempted, many relationships can be gotten back on track.
Keep in mind that this can apply to any type of relationship from marriages to friendships and family members.
Take a good look at your relationship and decide whether it is worth saving.
If you are clinging to that person just because you've been with them for awhile, but there are no other important attributes to the relationship, letting go might be the best thing.
But if you know that you don't want to let this person go, take the first step.
If your partner hasn't stepped forward wanting to fix things, there is a good chance they won't, so you need to take the initiative.
One of the first things that you need to do to get your relationship on the mend is to get both you and your partner working on the problem.
It is practically impossible to remedy problems in a relationship if one partner isn't cooperating.
If this is the case, you may need to involve a third party such as a counselor.
Whether you need assistance or not, the next step in the healing process is to start communicating.
Most relationship problems are caused by a lack of communication.
Thankfully, if this is the issue, it can be remedied.
If the problem is not caused by a lack of communication, it can still generally be helped with proper discussion.
Both partners need to get everything out on the table.
The partner who brought up the relationship issues should probably be the one to start off.
Honesty is key here, so if you feel like you are being ignored, neglected, or shut out, you need to say so.
Don't hint at things, because this will just frustrate both of you.
Be nice, this isn't the time to start yelling or picking a fight, but try to convey your feelings in a clear, concise manner.
Also don't blame the other person for the relationship problems.
Even if they are partially to blame for the negative areas of your relationship, you probably are too, and finger-pointing won't solve anything.
Never assume that the other person knows what is wrong.
If a communication problem is what is causing the negativity in your relationship, there is a good chance that both of you are misinterpreting the signals the other one is sending.
Make it clear how you feel, and allow the other person in the relationship to do the same.
Once you have communicated what the problem in your relationship is, figure out how to fix it.
Write down the problem if you need to, and then write down what you can both do to help remedy the problem.
Please keep in mind that there are some relationships that cannot be saved.
If you try to save your relationship, and it still falls apart, realize that you did your best and try to move on.
If you are in an abusive relationship, you probably shouldn't try to save it.
If you are determined to try, get professional help for the abuser.
There will be no hope for the relationship until they can stop being abusive and you trying to change them will probably make the situation worse.
next post