“My boyfriend dumped me and I want him back,” is one phrase you pray you'll never hear yourself saying. If you do, you're facing an emotional overload. When you're unceremoniously dumped by the man you love it leaves you in a puddle of conflicting emotions. You're bound to feel sad, hurt, rejected, angry and confused. Some women anticipate a break up on their horizon while for others it comes clearly out of left field. Regardless of whether or not you had an inkling that he was going to break up with you, it stings. Sometimes the pain is overwhelming. Walking away may be what everyone is telling you to do, but if it's not right for you, don't do it. Many couples go through a period where they end up apart for a time and yet they find their way back to each other and go on to have long, fulfilling and deeply connected relationships. He's your ex boyfriend right now but you can make him your boyfriend again if you understand what steps you need to be taking.

Any woman who has ever thought to herself, my boyfriend dumped me and I still love him, has made at least one mistake in her quest to get her man back. You may have been guilty of making one of these mistakes too. Have you called him up while crying? Have you told him that you can't live without him? Have you enlisted the help of a friend to get him back? Have you faked being sick to try to appeal to his compassionate nature or have you sent him a gift with the hope it would smooth things over? If you've done any or all of these, you're using techniques to try and get him back that just don't work. The problem with us, as women, is that we try to get a man back using methods that we think would be appealing if the roles were reversed. If our ex boyfriend did any of those things to try and get us back, we'd fall into his arms. Men don't think that way though so you need a proven technique that will work for getting a man back. In other words, you need to approach this from a man's point of view.

There's one thing that men respond to. They respond to no contact. The moment a woman disappears from a man's life, he notices. He thinks about her more and over time he starts wanting her again. Most women don't realize this for one simple reason. They don't have the willpower to leave their man alone for a day, let alone a couple of weeks. You need to though. For the next few weeks you're going to forget your ex even exists. You're going to fill your days and evenings with things you love doing. You're not going to contact him, you're not going to ask anyone else to do it for you and you're going to focus on yourself. While you're busy doing these things, he'll be going crazy wondering what's become of you. His curiosity will get the better of him and he'll come looking for you. Suddenly, the roles are indeed reversed and he'll be the one trying to get you back.