Has it ever happened to you that a great guy you've been going out with for the past few weeks suddenly stops calling? There doesn't seem to be any good reason for his sudden withdrawal, and no amount of badgering can seem to make him explain himself.
In the end, there's nothing you can do but watch him drift farther and farther away until he disappears from your life, and you're left wondering just what in the world happened to the otherwise great relationship.
Here's the reason - most of the good guys out there have little trouble getting along with life.
They're single, they're successful, and they get along great with just about anyone on the planet.
Unfortunately, the women they meet aren't as independent and easygoing - after all, it takes a lot of work to present yourself to the world unapologetically, and not everyone has the patience for that.
However, that doesn't stop these women from pretending to be independent and interesting to get the guy's attention.
The problem happens when these women fail to keep up the "independent woman" persona and suddenly revert to who they really are - dependent, clingy, desperate, bitter, or whatever - and shock the guy out of his skin when he notices the sudden change in their temperament.
So the guy does the most natural reaction to such a situation.
He withdraws.
To make things worse, these women make several common mistakes in attempts to rekindle the relationship with the guy.
For one, they call the guy up and ask him why he wasn't calling, or they tell him that he hurt their feelings by not keeping in touch.
Or, on the other hand, they wait for them to call - and when he does, they fret over every little thing that bothers them.
Either way, it only gives the man more reason to never see her again.
To avoid making these mistakes, you'll have to start within yourself.
If you're not independent or confident, it's still much better to present yourself to him honestly and without shame.
But an even better thing to do would be to change your life for the better, simply by fixing the things that hamper your confidence.
Whether you have physical, financial, or psychological flaws, fixing these will help you gain confidence and show him that you're independent and unashamed.
Next, you have to show him that you're playful, too.
Instead of fretting over the phone when he takes a long time to call you back, tell him that it's great to hear from him again.
Be genuinely happy and excited to talk to him - after all, talking to a happy, excited woman is infinitely more fun for him than listening to her complaining about every little thing.
So keep this in mind: The great guys out there go for women who are independent and playful.
They'd like to think that whatever's waiting for them in the future is fun, and if you can show him that you can make your relationship fun for both of you, then he won't have a reason to withdraw from the great woman that you are.