If the passion has faded from your sex life, you need to take steps to make it better.
More than any other part of your relationship, your sex life needs special care to help keep the passion alive.
While every couple is different, there are several common issues that can cause relationship difficulties.
Talking openly with your partner is essential to a healthy relationship.
Talking to your partner about your sexual relationship is equally important.
Sex would be a whole world of discovery and fun in your early days as a couple, but as time moves on and other demands of life, like children and careers, come along, it is so easy to neglect your sex life.
In today's modern life it can be easy to get out of the habit of having sex with your partner.
And the longer this goes on, the harder it is to rekindle this part of your relationship.
Of course you still love each other, but you need to talk, to understand each others needs and desires, and find out if there are any problems that need to be discussed.
If you don't talk about it, how will you ever know how your partner feels? Not talking about it can lead to a distance between you and your partner, as you both wonder what the other thinks about your sex life or perhaps lack of it.
Then your imagination starts to take over and you amplify the problem into something much bigger than it really is.
It can be difficult for some men to talk about sex with their partners, but you can do it, just pick the right moment.
Not right after love-making! Start by asking your partner how they feel about your sex life, and then listen to what they have to say.
Let them know your feelings and reassure them that you still love them.
If they are not ready to talk right now or appear shocked by your question, drop the subject for now.
Give them time to think things over in their own mind, then after a few days, ask if they have had any thoughts on your question.
Do not push the issue.
If they have nothing to say ask if there is anything that you are doing wrong or could do better to improve your sexual relationship.
Tell them you don't need an answer right now, but would appreciate their thoughts some time soon.
Once your partner starts to talk, make sure you pay attention and listen! Most women love to talk, but as all us Guys know, they get really upset if we do not listen properly.
So don't interrupt and don't say anything until she has finished and then thank her for sharing her thoughts with you.
Then you can tell her your thoughts and feelings.
As we age, some people want sex much less than they used to, this is normal.
Communication is the only way to maintain a healthy relationship.
Maybe her idea of a satisfying sex life has changed over time.
It should never only be about intercourse.
Take time to be more sensual and enjoy all the feelings you can share together.
A gentle massage is a perfect way to explore each other's bodies.
Have a bath together or just a kiss and cuddle on the sofa.
Perhaps watch a video on having a good sex life.
And keep talking, find out what they like and don't like.
Tell them your likes and dislikes, get to know each others bodies and what feels good.
It can also be a good idea to have a discussion about your whole relationship.
This will identify any other areas that could be improved such as going out more and socialising as a couple.
If nothing seams to help your relationship, then the next step to consider would be Relationship Therapy.
Here you would receive counselling from therapists who specialise in helping couples.
They may offer new techniques to try in your relationship, especially if you both think sex has become boring.
Do make sure you visit a fully qualified professional.
Your own doctor may be able to refer you to one.
It is worth talking to your doctor anyway just in case one of you has a medical condition or is taking medication which may be affecting your sex drive.