How often, when we as adult children, are doing our financial planning for our retirement do we plan for our parent's care? How does one find out if our parents have properly planned for their needs? When is it appropriate for children to get involved in caring for their parents? What is the difference between a gerontologist and geriatrics? Who do I call; when do I call; and what questions do I ask? These are just a few of the questions that cloud the heads of caregivers when they suddenly and unexpectantly find themselves caring for a loved one.
The task of learning the language of the medical profession can be overwhelming in itself, not to mention having to learn how to navigate through county, state and national resources.
Addressing the financial aspect of care can and will most often shock individuals who have not been exposed to the high cost of elderly care.
When the level of care requires medical attention, resources can be depleted at an alarming rate.
At times it can be heartbreaking to sign over to the state all the assets our loved ones accumulated during their lifetime.
We can find comfort knowing that God gave up his own Son for us, and that caregivers must sacrifice their own inheritance by placing the care of our loved ones above our own personal gains.
In Proverbs 19:30 we hear "Listen to advice and accept instructions, and in the end you will be wise" and Proverbs 20:18a "Make plans by seeking advice".
Seeking advice from professionals who deal with elderly care issues can relieve the stress of the unknown without having to learn and navigate the unknown waters of elderly care.
Senior centers, county benefit specialist or Certified Senior Advisers are central resources that can guide one to trustworthy individuals of specific professions.
We pray: "Lord grant me the wisdom to realize that the task you have placed in my care is more than I can handle alone.
Guide me in my thoughts and prayer as I seek counsel.
Help me make wise choices and to place personal gains aside to do what is right for my loved one" Amen.