My wife wants a divorce and I want to reconcile - that statement holds true for quite a few men.
And yes, it is very possible to save your marriage.
You've already taken the first step - you've looked for help.
There are many ways to save a marriage, and have a good marriage again.
In fact, it will be a better marriage, because the two of you will have a greater bond because of the turmoil you are faced with now.
You could go to a marriage counselor.
Marriage counselling works best when you go as a couple, but can work when only one of you wants to save your marriage, at first.
There will come a time when the therapist wants to see both of you, though.
Do you know WHY your wife wants a divorce? Have you tried to talk to her about it? Sometimes a spouse wants a divorce simply because you marriage is in trouble and they don't want to try to fix the problem.
Your wife may be having problems coping with other things in her life, such as work or family issues.
She may also be suffering from depression, which would make anyone not want to do anything.
Every small problem seems to be a huge, unfixable problem when you're depressed.
How well do the two of you communicate with each other? That doesn't mean just talking, it means understanding what each other is saying and feeling.
Take steps to understand what she is telling you, and do your best to help her understand what you are feeling.
Don't get angry with her, that will just make her back further away from you.
Anger is the natural emotion when one spouse wants a divorce, but it is NOT the best way to handle the situation.
Stay as calm as you can.
When you stay calm, she will, too.
When you are both calm, you will be able to discuss the things that are bothering you, and can work together to come up with solutions.
Many marriages are saved by only one spouse wanting to save it.
Quite a few are even in the divorce process, but the couple works things out before the divorce is final.
The answer to your problem, 'My wife wants a divorce and I want to reconcile' is YES.
Your marriage can be saved, and it can be better than ever.