There are common misunderstandings about self help, the most common association with the term itself is of being all talk and no action.
As a relationship coach who has been certified only through applying all that I know on myself first, I want to address a few questions commonly asked about self help and its link with relationships.
1) Does self help work? Yes it most certainly does! You may not realize that they only kind of help that does give you results stems from helping yourself first! It is only when you are fully aware of your wants, needs, and your true potential that you can combine your traits to get what you want out of life, and your marriage in particular.
You will run into many people who will steer you in a different direction about self help, or help you point fingers at other elements or people in your life who pose the problem.
In all honesty, blaming anything or anyone is not the solution since the only person whom you can change is yourself, and everything else around you will follow that chain reaction.
In a nutshell, self help is the first step of progress towards any goal.
2) How will it benefit my relationship? Knowing what defines you in terms of values, morals, and general character will help you communicate and present yourself better to your partner.
It is only when you are comfortable in your own skin will you be able to coax your spouse to open up to you as well.
The biggest factor of knowing yourself is learning the ability to forgive your shortcomings.
You will learn to have mercy on yourself, and also be able to see your spouse as an imperfect human being like yourself.
3) Who else can help me get in touch with myself? The first and foremost element that can draw you closer to your inner being is prayer and constant focus on what you like and dislike, irrespective of external definitions and expectations.
You can refer to books that will help you tune into your essential self that wholly defines you.
A relationship coach can help you achieve your desired goals in your marriage once you are able to figure out where you stand right now, and what your final destination is.
Relationship self help is a well-founded option to help you save your marriage, and I am one to vouch for it since I have implemented and reaped its benefits.
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