Many of my students have complained that, even though they sang great at karaoke or at a concert, they didn't get the compliments they felt were deserved from friends and audience members.
Having been an entertainer most of my adult life, I can relate to that.
Why don't people let us know when we have done a good performance.
Of course there are always people who simply didn't like the type of music you sang, or expect you to be Celine Dion when you sing a Celine Dion song.
There's not much you can do about them.
But what about those who probably did like your performance very much, and yet say nothing to you? It might help you to understand some of the reasons for this, which have nothing to do with the quality of your performance.
1.
People often assume you don't need to be told how good you are.
This is similar to meeting Steven Tyler or Billy Joel and saying "you really sing well.
" We feel a little stupid saying what seems to be obvious.
We too often forget our place in the minds of non singers.
You and I realize that you're not a Billy Joel, but others relegate you and what you do in that "they already know they're very good" category.
Maybe this will put a new light on the situation, but I'm painfully aware that the feelings still exist.
2.
They are uncomfortable complimenting others.
This could just be shyness, or it could be a form of jealousy.
(When you think about it, that's an excellent compliment.
) 3.
They feel they might make you uncomfortable if they complement you.
4.
They just aren't the complimenting type.
It's not in their makeup to do this.
Although it still hurts when others don't acknowledge our performance, knowing that there are reasons (other than them not liking it) can help us understand.