Do you think you are boring in bed? Or maybe your spouse is? After dating or being married for a few years, sex can sometimes become boring.
It is important to try and keep the spice going.
Lack of effort is never a turn on.
Ever heard of the Seven-Year Itch? Unfortunately, it exists and it's really more of a rash, but the good news is, with proper treatment, it can be controlled.
The treatment in this case is hot, smoking sex with a side of kinky, hold the handcuffs (unless you are into that kind of thing..
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) Top Things Men Find Boring in Bed: We asked men on the streets what were the Top 5 things they found boring in bed.
Some answers came up time and again.
The men we spoke with wanted more excitement and creativity in their sex lives.
Here's what we learned and how you can stop being so boring in bed...
1.
Your Old Nasty Pajamas are NOT Sexy: I have a pair of pajamas that I love to wear night after night.
Unfortunately my husband doesn't find them very attractive.
He has often come home from work and said in a joking manner, "Wow you are really trying to look sexy tonight.
" I usually just laugh off his remarks.
Lately, however, I started thinking about those old pajamas.
They are about two years old, very lose, and maybe have a few small stains.
I love them to death.
I cannot part with them.
I realize they are not the sexiest thing to wear when I'm trying to impress my husband.
Men are visual creatures, so seeing women in sexy lingerie or nighty can really get them going.
So toss those old granny pajamas in your closet, and every once in a while change it up with something a little more revealing or maybe even go to bed in your birthday suit.
He'll be so excited, you can probably barter for a massage afterwards.
It's a win-win! 2.
Laziness in Bed Equals Boring in Bed: I won't deny that sometimes I am simply too lazy to get on top during sex, but I still do it.
It is not a turn on for a man if you just lay there.
You have to make an effort to take control and jump on top.
Don't lay there like a sack of potatoes.
Move your hips! Try some crazy new move you read about in Cosmo, and yes girls, get on top every once in a while.
It is not only fun for you and him, it is also a good leg workout (another win-win!).
Don't always wait for a man to ask you if you want to get on top.
Imagine if he always asked you before he did anything during sex.
You would absolutely hate it.
So take charge ladies.
Ride 'em cowgirl, yee-haw! 3.
Sex in the Same Place Makes for Boring Sex: Instead of always having sex in bed try and spice it up a little and have sex all throughout your house.
On the staircase, in the kitchen, on the bathroom sink (after you clean, of course) and wherever else you think might be fun.
Make a game of it.
Don't wait for him to initiate, just go for it.
Men like a little variety in their life.
They often fantasize throughout the day, so give him something to fantasize about.
4.
Stop Being Boring in Bed by Asking Permission: Are you a delicate little lily flower blowing in the wind, or are you a prowling tigress roaming the savanna, confident enough to get what you want? Perhaps I've carried the metaphor too far, but the point is do not be afraid to speak your mind in the bedroom.
Want to try a new position? Introduce Mr.
Dildo? Men like confident tigresses and in fact prefer them.
Sexual energy can be cyclical.
If you are exuding swag, he will pick up on it and in turn take his performance to the next level, which in turn will take you over falls.
I know you aren't supposed to mix metaphors, I'm just saying, look out ladies, there are sure to be fireworks! 5.
Self-Conscious = Boring in Bed: This really should have been number 1.
Nearly every man we spoke to mentioned how much they dislike it when their ladies clam up in bed due to their own insecurities.
If you are in a committed relationship with someone, chances are, they find you attractive.
Maybe you're not perfect, but then neither is he.
Have you ever considered that he may have insecurities too? The only difference is that men in general conceal their insecurities better, which can be a good a thing.
If men obsessed with what the women they are with may or may not be thinking, they would probably lose their erection.
If worrying about a little belly fat is taking away from your enjoyment and focus, this is a problem and it has a 2-fold approach to remedy.
First, if you have something making you feel insecure that can be addressed, such as body weight or shape, do something about it.
Don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself.
Make a lifestyle change.
Second, Fake It Till You Make It.
Even if you are not yet in the place that you want to be with your body, don't let it show to your man.
I know it may sound disingenuous, but the truth is that sexual energy is a 2-way street.
A man wants your complete focus and he wants to see you free and wild.
Take yourself out of your own head and pay attention to what is happening now.
You just might find that you like it.