This happened several years ago but is worth mentioning since our teenager went completely out of control that night!

When I say out of control I am talking out of control. We had to call the police because we were frightened for our kid.

For those parents out there that think they are dealing with things alone, trust me when I tell you are not alone. Many of us have faced times when we were dealing with out of control children.

The question is what do you do if you don't have access to any information that will help?

If you are like us you just panic! Yes I said PANIC!

We had no idea what to do.

It all started over the dumbest thing. My son and his sister were bickering back and forth like they always did. Each one wanting to get the last little dig in!

It didn't matter how many times their mother and I asked them to knock it off. I got news for all you out there that think the louder you get the more impressive your point becomes. It doesn't. It just escalates the problem!

Anyway by daughter in an attempt to get the last dig trips my son and down he went. He got up and slug his sister. Probably well deserved but nonetheless, I don't want them hitting each other especially since he is so much stronger than her.

When that happened I stepped in between them and by that time everyone was a little out of control including me.

I shoved my son into the couch to stop him for continuing to go after his sister. In doing so he now was fed up with everything. He could not understand why he was the object of my attention since she tripped him.

We are now both screaming at each other like wild men. Yes I am not proud of myself for being an idiot, but I was.

He stood up like he was going to punch me and of course I was ready if he did. Not a very good parenting technique by the way. You will not find this in any good parenting program.

Then he bolted into his room and placed items up against his door so we could not get in. As hard as I tried I could not push the door in.

As time progressed I became more and more upset and so did he.

He began putting notes under the door that said he hated us and was better off dead. Talk about a heart stopping moment. We went from the two of them bickering to this. What in the Hell was going wrong?

We had lost all control of the situation. We then heard some banging in his room.

In a moment now of fear for his life I took a hammer and punched a hole in his door.

W then saw a knife that he had stuck into the wall above his bed.

Could it get any worse? Yes, he then opens his window and pushes the screen out and out he goes also. As hard as I tried to beat him around before he could get away, I had lost him.

Now our son was out of the house running without shoes, a coat, his glasses and the weather is cold.

We called the police and it was not long before they arrived. I was already out looking for him and they joined the search. We were unable to find him.

The police said they would be back and in the meantime they would patrol the neighborhood. Not much we could do about it, but we continued looking.

It wasn't too long after they left he showed up.

By this time we were just glad he made it home safe.

The police made routine check at our home later and had to talk with our son to make sure we had not abused him in some way since the police officer had already seen the hole in the door and the knife in the wall. They were just doing their job, but it was a reality check for us as parents.

The police did speak with our teenager and after he knew everything was good he lectured him.

This was one of those times that fit the title "Teenager from Hell" and/or maybe "Parent for Hell" also.

Parenting teenagers is no picnic without the right skills.

We learned the hard way!

May God Bless you in your journey as a parent with your teenager!

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