- To move the couple from engaged to married.
- To ensure that the couple's wedding vows are witnessed and supported by their community.
Far too few of them make sure that those vows receive the support they need from the community.
Weddings (and marriages) need a Statement of Support.
This is a piece of the wedding that every ceremony ought to have but few do.
Witnessing a couple's commitment is not a passive event.
It is not just ensuring that the couple makes their promises to one another but also agreeing to support and celebrate those vows.
Bottom line, marriages grounded in community do better and last longer.
Tell your community you want their support in honoring and keeping the promises you've made, and they're going to be far more conscious about giving it to you.
It's a fairly simple process to turn the question "Does anyone object?" to the more important question (because objections should have been raised a long time ago if there were problems!) "Who supports this marriage?" Does anyone object are words from the legal transfer of property that has nothing to do with modern marriages.
And if someone does object to the marriage, unless there is brand new and compelling evidence for a marriage's not going forward, the time to object, the time that a friend would have raised the alarm is far back in history.
Such a simple group of words to work for your successful outcome.
Why wouldn't you put this in here? Why not do the work to have your wedding vows supported and celebrated? What do you need in a statement of support?
- An acknowledgment of the importance of community to a wedding couple.
- An acknowledgment of how important this particular community is to you.
- An acknowledgment that your marriage will thrive more strongly with your community's support.
- An invitation to your community to support the two of you, your promises and your marriage.
Those strengthened ties can be a big support to your successful marriage.